Day three – morning

It’s another warm day in Oxford, and the sun was streaming through the windows this morning as the group gathered. There was some amusing banter over British plumbing situation, and why the hot and cold water comes out of separate taps. The Brits defended the arrangement, explaining the hot water comes through slowly so there’s a good ten seconds of warm water to wash your hands. As the laughter subsided, Robert led the participants in 30 seconds’ silence to ground the group as the session began.

Robert explained that he was altering the plan for the day. Rather than continuing with the plan for developing communication skills, he decided to speed up progress . The impetus is that the situation preventing two groups from travelling to Oxford is so ‘painful and burning’, there is a real desire to address it sooner.

So the group moved to the section of the course focussing on the question of conflict and non violence. He argued that it’s more difficult to grasp  the idea of non-violent communication as we get older. Most societies are based on violent communication, that is the need to prove the other party is wrong, and that is the paradigm that tends stick. This  supports the idea that young people hold the potential to make the future better, one of the principles of Talk Together.

Participants broke out into small groups to discuss dominator and partnership paradigms of conflict resolution, and reconvened to examine the need to connect to achieve non-violent conflict resolution. They discussed disconnecting language. This includes the temptation to diagnose others’ problems, deny responsibility and blame the other party, evaluating what is deserved by each party, and making demands.

And they then discussed and practised connecting language, such as

Observation – When I see/know…

Feelings – I feel…

Needs – because I need…

Requests – so would you be willing…

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5 Responses to “Day three – morning”

  1. gazoulit Taoufiq Says:

    i aws happy to get hold of this blog address ” talk together” particularly that i know the great importance iof Oxford as a town of various universities , and omong others Oxford Unuiversity one of he most prestigious universities in the world , at the same time the idea to gather students and youth from some parts of he wordl and discuss issues and subjets that are close to their hearts , particularly in terlms of minorities/ refugees/ and unsolved conflicts is of great interest , it does adfd to thei genral knowledge more information about current affiars and socila politriacl problems surrounding us . This is purely from the academic point of , where as from the objectivity point iof view there is no doubt in my mibnd that there is a misunderstanding about the Yougsters coming either from Tindouf refugee campos aor from sahara region .

    In fact when talk about Sahroui flying to Oxford from two different places it indicates that those Sharoui yougsters who are after all sahraouis have two different views concerning the Sahara issue , or the Sahara future . In this particular point youngsters coming from Tindouf refugee campos are supposed to explai the outlook of the sepertist sahroui movement called ” Polisario” in the meantime yougsters coming from Laayoune the main town of he Sahara egion are supposedf to defend the other aspect of the conflict which basiocally the union of he Sahara region of the homeland, being as vast majority of the Sahraouis who live in the Sahara who belive hat western sahara is an integarl part of mOrocco and that themselves are Moroccan citizens such as their fathers and grand fathers and other Sahraoui generations.
    From thjis objective point of view the organizers of such gathering at Oxford should have made it clear that they representative of hese two views : those who are convinced that sahara feregion is part of the Kingdom of Morocco , and those who see the contrary , in order to expose both views front of students and youth coming totake part of such academic activity , and adiscusion will have to follow up so the European and British youth for that matter learn about the background of the issue and make up their mind whether they support this viewone .*
    * What w witness here is both youth delegations coming from tindouf and Agadir in Morocco where supporting the same view , ignoring thousands of sahroui yopugstyers and students wxho deeply beluieve that the Sahara region is an integral part of Morocco ,and h idea of creatingf a new state in the area is out question .*

    If the Moroccan authorioties did not allow the voices of separitim to laeve , they have all the right t do so bacause they simply and purelydefending a& national issue which was and still is at the core of th Moroccan politics for over three decades……… and if those young Sahrouis (as calimed ) were beaten up , in this case we have to look into the vreasons behind this incident , because those Sahraouis ( whoever they are ) are not saint and they must misbehave hemselves .

    In this particular point i would like to point out that such incidents take place in the heart of the most democratic nations in the World in,cluding the States and the united kingdom .

    Morocco is a lawful ciountry , there is simething called law and order , and nobody is above it, a

  2. gazoulit Taoufiq Says:

    i was happy to get hold of this blog address ” talk together” particularly that i know the great importance of Oxford as a town of various universities , and among others Oxford University one of he most prestigious universities in the world , at the same time the idea to gather students and youth from some parts of he world and discuss issues and subjects that are close to their hearts , particularly in terms of minorities/ refugees/ and unsolved conflicts is of great interest , it does add to their general knowledge more information about current affairs and social political problems surrounding us . This is purely from the academic point of view , where as from the objectivity point of view there is no doubt in my mind that there is a misunderstanding and misconception about the Youngsters coming either from Tindouf refugee camps or from Sahara region .

    In fact when we talk about Sahraouis flying to Oxford from two different places it indicates that those Sahraoui youngsters have two different views concerning the Sahara issue, or the Sahara future. In this particular point youngsters coming from Tindouf refugee camps are supposed to explain the outlook of the separatist sahraoui movement called ” Polisario” in the meantime youngsters coming from Laayoune the main town of he Sahara region are supposed to defend the other aspect of the conflict which is basically the reunion of the Sahara region with the homeland, especially that a vast majority of the Sahraouis who live in the Sahara who believe that western Sahara is an integral part of Morocco and that themselves are Moroccan citizens as their fathers and grand fathers and other Sahraoui generations.
    From this objective point of view the organizers of such gathering at Oxford should have made it clear that the representatives of these two views : those who are convinced that Sahara region is part of the Kingdom of Morocco , and those who see the contrary , in order to expose both views front of students and youth coming to take part of such academic activity , and discussion will have to follow up so the European and British youth for that matter learn about the background of the issue and make up their mind ;

    What we witness here is both youth delegations coming from Tindouf in Algeria and Agadir in Morocco where supporting the same view , ignoring thousands of Sahrawi youngsters and students who deeply believe that the Sahara region is an integral part of Morocco ,and the idea of creating a new state in the area is out question .

    If the Moroccan authorities (as claimed) did not allow the voices of separatism to leave, they have all the right t do so because they simply and purely defending a national issue which was and still is at the core of the Moroccan politics for over three decades……… and if those young Sahraouis (as calimed ) were beaten up , in this case we have to look into the reasons behind this incident , because those Sahraouis ( whoever they are ) are not saint and they must not misbehave themselves .

    In this particular point I would like to point out that such incidents take place in the heart of the most democratic nations in the World including the States and the United Kingdom.

    Morocco is a lawful country, there is something called law and order , and nobody is above it . In fact the same principle should be applied on the young guests from tindouf camps , as the Polisario will never and under no circumstances allow young Sahrouis inside the Comps who believe that the only just and lasting solution to the Sahara conflict is through the Moroccan proposal submitted to the Un security council providing Sahrouis with a substantial autonomy , like the one applied in the heart of Britain , in Scotland , Wales and northern Ireland , and here let remind the bloggers that 3 different nations who are not English live together within the united kingdom enjoying an advance autonomy .

    To conclude it is worth reminding that Morocco has got the right to stop any Sahroui who intends to defend the Polisario stand, as much as Polisario will never let young Moroccan sahraouis who are detained in the Tindouf camps to leave the camps in order to show the world the extent of Human rights violations over there , and their full support to the autonomy proposal is so many aspects more advanced than the one applied in Scotland for instance

  3. Glasiomlan Says:

    I’m not sure that a country that builds a heavily mined 2500 km wall down the middle of another country is in the best position to take the moral high ground.

    Perhaps they just like taking ground.

  4. gazoulit Taoufiq Says:

    As far as the wall built by the Moroccans in the Sahara it was for military purpuses , as it was confirmed that the Algerian army was taking part in the armed dispute between Morocco and polisario front , wich is an obvious interference in the conflict ;
    in order to minimise the military intervention of the Algerian army and to protect the sahraoui population who live in all parts of sahara they even move from one area to another one being themselves nomads Morocco was forced to build this wall in order to stop the attacks made by Polisario fighters who were supervised by the algerian Military leadership , and in most of cases even the algerian army took part in the sand war , you may consult documents to find out that the Moroccan army detained some Algerian soldiers and gave them back to Algeria via the UN

  5. gazoulit Taoufiq Says:

    there is no doubt in my mind that the idea of “talk together” is brilliant provided that we make sure that the whole event is not politicised , nor trying to defend one thesis against the other one .
    there is obviously a dispute over the Sahara region, but what matters from the academic point of view is to disclose ther historical and legal aspects of the conflict , so students , researchers and the British national public will be aware of all aspects of the Western sahara issue , and the real reasons behind the dispute

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